Mom Life

Loving my postpatrum body

The one thing I hated after I had my daughter was the comments people made about how I looked.

Every time I saw someone it was a comment about my weight. i didn’t care if they were positive or negative comments i hated all of them.

The last thing women should be concerned about is losing the baby weight.

I was more worried about making sure my baby was healthy & happy all while being sleep deprived & trying not to lose my sanity.

I see all over social media women posting pictures of themselves two weeks after having a baby looking like they did before they were pregnant sometimes even better. It puts so much pressure on all women to have to snap back that quickly & its just not real life.

Every woman is different & their bodies will heal different postpartum. We shouldn’t have to worry about working out & losing weight 5 min after giving birth.

I’m no where near my pre-pregnancy weight & I’m surprisingly fine with it. It took me 9 months the weight I did while pregnant & its probably going to take me at least that long to lose the weight. It might take even longer.

I grew a human in my body & pushed it out of me. That’s powerful as fuck & I love my body for that. I’m not going to let society tell me how my body should look after that.

Are you someone that lost the baby weight quickly or did it take some time?

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Girl Power, Mom Life

Raising a strong willed daughter

From the moment she was born I could tell my daughter was going to be strong-willed & stubborn. She knows what she wants & isn’t afraid to let you know how she feels. She’s only 3 months old so it’s only going to get more intense as she gets older.

The feminist in me is proud that one day she’ll grow up & be a strong woman however raising a strong girl is hard.

Why can’t she be a little girl that goes with the flow & listens to her mother then when she’s older be a independent woman that does what she wants when she wants? That would be too easy for me.

Are you raising a strong-willed daughter? If so how do you deal with it?

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Mom Life

What’s in a name?

I saw a post on Instagram from a new mom explaining how she waited 24 hours after her daughter was born to name her. She didn’t want to name her before she saw her in case the name didn’t fit.

Unlike this new mom, I named my daughter before she was born. I had a boys name & girls name picked out before we even found out the gender.

I’m not usually a super planner like that but I guess i was just excited. Then like all things in life things didn’t go as planned. My grandmother passed away very early into my pregnancy. She was suffering from dementia & put into hospice so on one of her final days I told her I was pregnant. She was one of the first people I told.

I was very close to her growing up & since I was named for my great grandmother Ruth I wanted to keep the tradition alive. My grandmothers name was Gertrude so I needed a G name.

I didn’t know the gender so we chose two G names one for each gender. I wanted a unique name but not two unique like how these celebrities name there kids crazy things.

Giuliana was different but not too different & pretty. When she was born i couldn’t think of naming her any other name it just fit. The other name i had for her wouldn’t of worked. I don’t know why but it just worked out. I think if i would have waited to name her it would have been more difficult & i would have changed my mind 100 times.

Did you name your children before they were born?

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Marriage

Don’t ever stop dating your spouse

My husband & I are really good at making sure to take time for just the two of us. It’s even more important now that we have a baby.

We used to take at least one vacation a year with just the 2 of us. No family or friends just us.

Things have changed since we were younger & didn’t have responsibilities but we have a date night at least once a month. Weather that’s dinner and a movie, drinks or even a staycation we find a babysitter & get out.

Life gets busy & it’s really good for us to have that time with each other to catch up & have fun.

Do you have date nights with your spouse?

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