I thought the 3rd trimester & labor & delivery where the worst part of becoming a parent. I kept hearing people tell me ”this is nothing compared to the 4th trimester.” Yes there is a such thing as the 4th trimester & I’m in the trenches of it right now.
The first 3 months of a newborns life aka the 4th trimester is harder than being pregnant for 9 months & being in labor for over 30 hours.
First of all, I don’t know about other moms but no one really talked about or warned me about the recovery of your body after you give birth. I had no idea that shortly after I pushed a 6 pound human being out of me that i would have to get stitches down there. I don’t know if it’s because the epidural was wearing off or I was exhausted mentally & physically but those stitches hurt more than labor. This made it painful to pee which of course I had to go every 5 minutes. Don’t even get me started on the month long period that you have after giving birth & the hemorrhoids. Recovery from these things without a newborn would be tough but with one takes it to a whole new level.
Now let’s talk about the lack of sleep. I knew i would be getting less sleep I didn’t know i would be getting absolutely no sleep. Newborns eat every 2-3 hours but that timer starts when the feeding begins. It takes me about an hour to feed my daughter so by the time she’s fed,changed & finally falls to sleep again i only have about an hour of sleep if I’m lucky until the next time she eats. That’s on a good night if she isn’t fussy because of gas pains or just having typical newborn fuss.
At the end of the day I’m learning that it’s just going to take time for us to learn each other & get on the same page. I’m trusting that all my friends & family that told me it gets better aren’t lying just so they can stop my complaining but deep down we’ll push through it.
Moms, what was the 4th trimester like for you? Will I ever get sleep again? Let me know in the comments