During most of my pregnancy, I had co-workers asking me if I was going to come back to work after maternity leave.
I couldn’t answer that question because I wasn’t sure how I would feel after I had the baby. I work over an hour away from my house & wasn’t sure if I wanted to be that far away from the baby. Plus I don’t have any retired grandparents yet to watch the baby & daycare is so expensive. My whole paycheck would be going to daycare & commuting.
My husband & I made the decision that it wasn’t worth me going back to that job after i took my leave.
Just because I wasn’t going back to that job doesn’t mean I don’t want to work. It’s important for me to have my own identity outside of being a mom.
As much as I love my daughter I just wasn’t built to be a stay at home mom. God bless the women that are stay at home moms cuz it’s hard work & you must be saints.
For now, I will enjoy the time I get to spend with my daughter full time but eventually I will look for jobs closer to my house even if its part-time.
Having another identity outside of wife & mom is something that’s not just what I want its what I need.
Are you a working mom or a stay at home mom?