“You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame.” -Erica Jong
For the first 6 months, my daughter slept in the bed with me at night & also napped on me.
Before all the mom experts come out to tell me your not supposed to do that well I did get over it. It was the only way we were both getting sleep & it worked for us.
At her 6-month doctor’s appointment, the doctor strongly recommended I start sleep training. In the long run, it will help her be able to fall asleep on her own.
It was time for some tough love so I made a plan to start with putting her in her crib for just naps than slowly working towards the night sleeping.
To my shock, it only took a week for her to get used to not only napping in her crib but sleeping in it at night. She would cry it out less time than the nights before & now she’s used to it. I really thought my dramatic baby girl was going to take months to get this accomplished.
Now I have so much free time during the day I don’t know what to do with myself. She started taking 3 naps a day, two of which are only a half hour but one is an hour or more now she’s a little older & only takes 2 naps but ill take it.
It’s the greatest feeling to not only have a little bit of me time now but to also watch her become a little more independent.
What do you do when your kids nap?
I see all over the internet people posting quotes about not caring what people think & blah blah blah.
I used to be one of those people that believed all that hype. Then i started reading books about the mind & how it works & it got me really thinking about that statement.
It’s our human nature to care what people think we can’t help it. No matter how many times you say it to yourself or post it on your social media deep down & you really believe that subconsciously you do care what people think.
I don’t think you should care what everyone thinks but you should care what some people think.
If I’ve learned anything it’s that at any stage of your life people will have opinions about it & they will tell you there opinions weather you want to hear it or not.
What i do is let them say there opinions (cuz they will anyway) & then do what i want to do anyway.
For example my mother in law had a lot of opinions about the hospital i gave birth specially the doctors.
It wasn’t the ideal delivery (what delivery is?) & my daughter wound up coming out blue which ended up with her being in the NICU for a few days. My water broke before my cervix was dilated, I wound up getting an infection & was in labor for over 30 hours.
It was a natural birth & my mother in law thought the doctors shouldn’t of waited that long & i should have had a c section. Do i agree with her? Yea a little bit but i can’t change the past & now my daughter & I are both recovered & healthy which is all that matters.
She went on to tell me to change doctors & blah blah blah.
I cared about what she had to say. I respect her, she has 4 kids so she does kinda know what she’s talking about so i let her say what she had to say.
At the end of the day I’m still going to do what i think is right for me & my family no matter what.
Do i care what some people think? Absolutely I want to hear people what people think. People i have respect for at least.
That doesn’t mean i care about what everyone thinks. Especially internet trolls who have nothing better to do then comment negative shit on people pictures.
At the end of the day saying i don’t care what anyone thinks is a lie.
As i get older i have been trusting my gut a lot more. Especially when it comes to meeting people. But I’m also learning to not make sudden judgements right away.
Sometimes I’ll make a quick judgement about someone only to find that after talking with them a few more times i actually like the person.
if my first intuition about someone stays the same way after spending more time with them then that’s a great indicator that we just aren’t the same & probably won’t get along.
My gut will always steer me in the right direction when it comes to certain people & situations & it hasn’t failed me yet.
Do you trust your gut?
I have this neighbor in my neighborhood who’s in her 70s, retired so she’s home a lot. She’s always outside talking to people for long periods of time gossiping or trying to get information about their lives.
She’ll ask questions that you can tell she’s just nosey & wants to pry. She saw my husband the other day for the first time in a while & she asked if everything was ok in our house. He looked at her confused & she went on to explain how she hasn’t seen my car leave every morning as she used to when I was working & we’ve been having a lot of visitors. She asked if i was still working & if one of us is sick.
She obviously doesn’t realize we had a baby in December which explains the visitors & me not leaving as much as i used to but we didn’t feel the need to have to explain that to her so my husband & I are usually very vague with our answers.
One word answers & keeping it moving usually helps.
It would be one thing if it was someone I built a relationship with over the years & she was genuinely concerned but her need to know everything is just so she can go to the next person & talk about it. i barely know her & I know her intentions aren’t pure & I don’t have time or patience for it.
I’m polite when she says hi how are you but that’s the extent of the conversation & she just has to accept that. If she doesn’t I really don’t care cuz it’s her problem, not mine.
Do you know someone that is nosey?