As i watched Megan Markle walk out to address the media in full makeup, perfect hair, & a white dress in heel literally 2 days after giving birth, I had a lot of mixed emotions about it.
First of all, I have a lot of respect for her cuz I couldn’t have looked that good a couple of days after giving birth if I tried. And i sure as fuck wouldn’t be able to stand in front of cameras & answer ridiculous questions like “who does your son look like?” With a smile on my face.
But I was a little angry about it cuz it’s so unrealistic to think that’s how women look after giving birth.
2 days after giving birth to my daughter i looked like someone ran me over with a monster truck. I had greasy knotty hair, bags under my eyes. I would been ok with just that. i had to wear mess panties with a diaper like pad and ice packs in it.
I had to use a spray bottle while I peed & this spray to numb the pain of the stitches.
My knees & every muscle in my stomach hurt which made it difficult to walk.
I remember begging the nurse to let me shower to just feel like a human being again & after hours of negotiations they let me.
That’s real life two days after giving birth & that’s just the physical part of it. The mental is even worse.
I felt like i was in a whole different body, exhaustion & lack of eating really just screwed me up mentally.
The first 6 weeks postpartum i remember thinking “why the fuck did i think this was a good idea?” multiple times a day.
But even though my mental & physical state was fragile your body just goes into survival mode & you get through it.
I’m now 5 months postpatrum & i still struggle with my new body. I don’t wear any good clothes cuz my daughter spits up every 5 seconds & i barely have time to shower let alone put on a full face of makeup & a dress with heels. The crazy thing is I would do it all over again cuz she is so worth it.
I just wish the media would portray the real postpartum life & not the glamorous one. It’s far from glamorous. Amy Schumer is doing a good job with posting very real pictures on her Instagram about postpartum life & i hope to see more celebrities do that.
Let’s get more real about postpartum life.
Megan Markle two days after giving birth
Kate Middleton right after giving birth
This is me right after giving birth
Two days after giving birth