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Social Issues

My thoughts on the abortion ban in Alabama

I want to start off my saying I do not identify with any political party. I agree & disagree with both democrats & republicans so therefore can’t 100% say I’m either.

What i can say is that i’m pro choice & always have been. As a woman I want to be able to make choices about my body without any government interference.

In an attempt to grow as a person I’ve been doing a lot of reading about how the mind works & how to communicate especially with people that don’t agree with my views.

With the country being more divided than ever & people not able to have civil conversations about politics & religion it was important to figure out why we are like this.

I wasn’t going to write this because people are so hostile when it comes to politics & religion but in my attempt to grow as a person one of my goals is to start getting uncomfortable & saying things that might not necessarily be popular.

I’ve started doing what i never did before & took my emotions out of the issues to really see both sides in its entirety & here is what my opinions are about the abortion laws & people trying to ban them.

I watched a conservative video on social media explaining why he doesn’t believe birth control should be free as well as abortion legal. I had to watch it more than once cuz the first time i was so angry that a male who doesn’t have to worry about getting an abortion or having access to birth control was trying to take that right away from women who go through these struggles daily.

After i calmed down & actually started listening I realized he had a good point. He’s a religious conservative who’s religion doesn’t believe in birth control or abortion so why should his tax money go toward something he morally doesn’t believe in? He’s right i wouldn’t want my tax money going toward something that was against my religious values.

From that aspect i can say i understand where some religious Christian conservatives are coming from.

However banning abortions & not giving women free access to birth control feels more like you’re forcing you’re religious beliefs on everyone & that’s where the problem lays with me.

I’m not a religious person & like politics I can’t identify 100% with a religious group. I agree & disagree with all religious groups. It’s not right to force religion on people that don’t have the same beliefs as you just like it’s not right to force people to pay for something they don’t believe in.

What absolutely shatters my heart about this new abortion ban is that the government is saying they care more about literally everyone else before women.

Women & children are raped & molested at extremely high rates & some of them get pregnant involuntary.

So what your saying to those women & children when you ban something so important is you care more rapists & pedifiles then you do women & children.

If you want to try to change the law where you’re tax isn’t going toward abortion clinics & free birth control because it’s something you don’t believe in, then go for it. But to ban it completely & punish people that don’t have your beliefs is not the way to fix this country.

PS: just because something isn’t legal doesn’t prevent people from getting what they want. During the prohibition alcohol was banned & people still found ways to drink, drugs are illegal & people still find ways to do them. Making abortion illegal isn’t going to stop women from doing it it’s going to stop them from getting it done safely & sometimes that might lead to death of both the unborn fetus & the woman.

Mom Life

What’s in a name?

I saw a post on Instagram from a new mom explaining how she waited 24 hours after her daughter was born to name her. She didn’t want to name her before she saw her in case the name didn’t fit.

Unlike this new mom, I named my daughter before she was born. I had a boys name & girls name picked out before we even found out the gender.

I’m not usually a super planner like that but I guess i was just excited. Then like all things in life things didn’t go as planned. My grandmother passed away very early into my pregnancy. She was suffering from dementia & put into hospice so on one of her final days I told her I was pregnant. She was one of the first people I told.

I was very close to her growing up & since I was named for my great grandmother Ruth I wanted to keep the tradition alive. My grandmothers name was Gertrude so I needed a G name.

I didn’t know the gender so we chose two G names one for each gender. I wanted a unique name but not two unique like how these celebrities name there kids crazy things.

Giuliana was different but not too different & pretty. When she was born i couldn’t think of naming her any other name it just fit. The other name i had for her wouldn’t of worked. I don’t know why but it just worked out. I think if i would have waited to name her it would have been more difficult & i would have changed my mind 100 times.

Did you name your children before they were born?