Life as we know it

Boundaries are neccessary for your sanity

You can be kind, love someone & support them but you can’t say yes to every single request.

Learning to say no without apologizing or making an excuse is so hard for me to this day but as I work on it, it’s so necessary for my sanity.

You don’t have to go to every party or event to still love & support people.

If someone makes you feel bad for going to the 27 events or parties that they are having & then for missing the next 1 or 2 then they aren’t people you want in your life.

Boundaries are healthy & you’re not a bad person for saying no & doing what’s best for you.

Do you struggle with boundaries?

Mom Life

Naptime is coming & I can’t wait

For the first 6 months, my daughter slept in the bed with me at night & also napped on me.

Before all the mom experts come out to tell me your not supposed to do that well I did get over it. It was the only way we were both getting sleep & it worked for us.

At her 6-month doctor’s appointment, the doctor strongly recommended I start sleep training. In the long run, it will help her be able to fall asleep on her own.

It was time for some tough love so I made a plan to start with putting her in her crib for just naps than slowly working towards the night sleeping.

To my shock, it only took a week for her to get used to not only napping in her crib but sleeping in it at night. She would cry it out less time than the nights before & now she’s used to it. I really thought my dramatic baby girl was going to take months to get this accomplished.

Now I have so much free time during the day I don’t know what to do with myself. She started taking 3 naps a day, two of which are only a half hour but one is an hour or more now she’s a little older & only takes 2 naps but ill take it.

It’s the greatest feeling to not only have a little bit of me time now but to also watch her become a little more independent.

What do you do when your kids nap?

Mom Life

I complain about my daughter & that’s ok

I love my daughter more than anything or anyone in this world & I would do anything for her. But that doesn’t mean there are days when she’s being a complete asshole & i don’t like her for a little bit. I always love her even when i don’t like her.

Kids can be the cutest things in the entire world but they can also be little demon kids that make your life a living hell.

Just because you complain about your kid doesn’t mean you are a bad parent. I think it makes you real because anyone that is a parent knows it’s not all rainbows & sunshine when it comes to raising these little humans.

I say a lot of good things about my daughter but i don’t leave out the bad things cuz she’s not a perfect kid & I’m not a perfect parent. I can live with that.

Are you a parent that complains about your kids?

Life as we know it

“I don’t care what people think” is a lie

I see all over the internet people posting quotes about not caring what people think & blah blah blah.

I used to be one of those people that believed all that hype. Then i started reading books about the mind & how it works & it got me really thinking about that statement.

It’s our human nature to care what people think we can’t help it. No matter how many times you say it to yourself or post it on your social media deep down & you really believe that subconsciously you do care what people think.

I don’t think you should care what everyone thinks but you should care what some people think.

If I’ve learned anything it’s that at any stage of your life people will have opinions about it & they will tell you there opinions weather you want to hear it or not.

What i do is let them say there opinions (cuz they will anyway) & then do what i want to do anyway.

For example my mother in law had a lot of opinions about the hospital i gave birth specially the doctors.

It wasn’t the ideal delivery (what delivery is?) & my daughter wound up coming out blue which ended up with her being in the NICU for a few days. My water broke before my cervix was dilated, I wound up getting an infection & was in labor for over 30 hours.

It was a natural birth & my mother in law thought the doctors shouldn’t of waited that long & i should have had a c section. Do i agree with her? Yea a little bit but i can’t change the past & now my daughter & I are both recovered & healthy which is all that matters.

She went on to tell me to change doctors & blah blah blah.

I cared about what she had to say. I respect her, she has 4 kids so she does kinda know what she’s talking about so i let her say what she had to say.

At the end of the day I’m still going to do what i think is right for me & my family no matter what.

Do i care what some people think? Absolutely I want to hear people what people think. People i have respect for at least.

That doesn’t mean i care about what everyone thinks. Especially internet trolls who have nothing better to do then comment negative shit on people pictures.

At the end of the day saying i don’t care what anyone thinks is a lie.