Mom Life

Naptime is coming & I can’t wait

For the first 6 months, my daughter slept in the bed with me at night & also napped on me.

Before all the mom experts come out to tell me your not supposed to do that well I did get over it. It was the only way we were both getting sleep & it worked for us.

At her 6-month doctor’s appointment, the doctor strongly recommended I start sleep training. In the long run, it will help her be able to fall asleep on her own.

It was time for some tough love so I made a plan to start with putting her in her crib for just naps than slowly working towards the night sleeping.

To my shock, it only took a week for her to get used to not only napping in her crib but sleeping in it at night. She would cry it out less time than the nights before & now she’s used to it. I really thought my dramatic baby girl was going to take months to get this accomplished.

Now I have so much free time during the day I don’t know what to do with myself. She started taking 3 naps a day, two of which are only a half hour but one is an hour or more now she’s a little older & only takes 2 naps but ill take it.

It’s the greatest feeling to not only have a little bit of me time now but to also watch her become a little more independent.

What do you do when your kids nap?

Mom Life

I complain about my daughter & that’s ok

I love my daughter more than anything or anyone in this world & I would do anything for her. But that doesn’t mean there are days when she’s being a complete asshole & i don’t like her for a little bit. I always love her even when i don’t like her.

Kids can be the cutest things in the entire world but they can also be little demon kids that make your life a living hell.

Just because you complain about your kid doesn’t mean you are a bad parent. I think it makes you real because anyone that is a parent knows it’s not all rainbows & sunshine when it comes to raising these little humans.

I say a lot of good things about my daughter but i don’t leave out the bad things cuz she’s not a perfect kid & I’m not a perfect parent. I can live with that.

Are you a parent that complains about your kids?

Mom Life, Social Issues

Lets get real about postpatrum life

As i watched Megan Markle walk out to address the media in full makeup, perfect hair, & a white dress in heel literally 2 days after giving birth, I had a lot of mixed emotions about it.

First of all, I have a lot of respect for her cuz I couldn’t have looked that good a couple of days after giving birth if I tried. And i sure as fuck wouldn’t be able to stand in front of cameras & answer ridiculous questions like “who does your son look like?” With a smile on my face.

But I was a little angry about it cuz it’s so unrealistic to think that’s how women look after giving birth.

2 days after giving birth to my daughter i looked like someone ran me over with a monster truck. I had greasy knotty hair, bags under my eyes. I would been ok with just that. i had to wear mess panties with a diaper like pad and ice packs in it.

I had to use a spray bottle while I peed & this spray to numb the pain of the stitches.

My knees & every muscle in my stomach hurt which made it difficult to walk.

I remember begging the nurse to let me shower to just feel like a human being again & after hours of negotiations they let me.

That’s real life two days after giving birth & that’s just the physical part of it. The mental is even worse.

I felt like i was in a whole different body, exhaustion & lack of eating really just screwed me up mentally.

The first 6 weeks postpartum i remember thinking “why the fuck did i think this was a good idea?” multiple times a day.

But even though my mental & physical state was fragile your body just goes into survival mode & you get through it.

I’m now 5 months postpatrum & i still struggle with my new body. I don’t wear any good clothes cuz my daughter spits up every 5 seconds & i barely have time to shower let alone put on a full face of makeup & a dress with heels. The crazy thing is I would do it all over again cuz she is so worth it.

I just wish the media would portray the real postpartum life & not the glamorous one. It’s far from glamorous. Amy Schumer is doing a good job with posting very real pictures on her Instagram about postpartum life & i hope to see more celebrities do that.

Let’s get more real about postpartum life.

Megan Markle two days after giving birth

Kate Middleton right after giving birth

This is me right after giving birth

Two days after giving birth

Mom Life

Things to say & not say to mothers

Things I’m tired of hearing since becoming a mom

– are you ready for baby number 2?

– this is what you signed up for

– I have needs also

– Breastfeeding is healthier than formula feeding

– You look tired

– she needs to learn how to sleep on her own

– you really should get her on a schedule

– When are you going back to work?

Things I would like to hear

– how can I help?

– I’ll watch the baby go take a nap

– I made dinner

– I cleaned your house

– i brought wine

– You’re doing an amazing job

– I brought you the largest coffee I could get

Any other moms hear these sayings & want to punch someone out? What are other things to say & not to say to moms?

Mom Life

That’s it I’m building a mom pod

Do you know how many times I’ve thought to myself I just need a place where I can go to have “me” time & regain my sanity for just an hour or maybe 7? Way too many times for me to count is the answer.

I’ve dreamed of going on vacation to an island with no husband or my kid or dogs. A place where no one is relying on me to keep them alive or rely on me to make all decisions like what we are eating for dinner.

Where all I have to worry about is myself, & my hardest decision of the day would be which drink I’m going to have on the beach.

Unfortunately vacationing is just not in the budget right now.

Then one day I was scrolling through Pinterest & came across this mom pod idea & spent a ridiculous amount of time hating myself for not thinking of this genius idea.

All mom’s should have a mom pod where its a room in the house not attached to the house where they can go to just breathe & have a minute for themselves. I’m even going to go as far & all women need a woman pod to do this. Let’s be honest even if you don’t have tiny kids, your spouse can act like your kid sometimes.

Man caves are a thing so why can’t women/ mom pods be a thing.

Do you have space in your house to take some time for yourself?

Mom Life

Motherhood is insane

I’m at the point in motherhood where I’m begging my mom to retire so she can watch my daughter & I can go back to work. This is all her fault cuz she raised me to have an insane work ethic & didn’t prepare me for a stay at home mom type of life. Being a mom is hard enough but being a stay at home mom takes it to a whole new level.

I don’t think human beings are meant to spend 24 hours a day 7 days a week with anyone or anything.

My husband & I have a 2 week limit before we get sick of each other. After 2 weeks he has to go on a work trip or I need to get away or we will end up killing each other. It’s not any different with any of my other relationships with family or friends. Too much of one person drives me crazy.

Because my husband has a job where he has to travel overnight a lot I’m the one that is home with the baby & the 2 dogs. By the end of the week I’m ripping my hair out counting down the minutes until my husband walks into the door.

I barely have time to shower when I’m alone with the baby & dogs let alone time to keep in touch with friends. My best friend lives in a different state so it’s not like i can just drive to her or she can drive to me. Our friendship relies a lot on phone conversations. Sometimes it will be weeks until we both have time to get on the phone to vent & catch up.

I just need something that will take me away for a couple hours a day where I can have adult conversations & complain about my family all while doing mindless work tasks like copying & pasting or filing papers. Is that too much to ask?

I know when I’m able to get away from the baby for an overnight trip or even for an hour I come back with a much better mindset & in the long run that’s going to make me a better mom.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

Life as we know it

Amazon prime is an addiction

I got amazon prime when I was in my last trimester of pregnancy. I didn’t want to go anywhere at that point & having a newborn in the winter I thought it would be nice to be able to just order what I need & not have to go out in the cold.

Amazon has literally everything. I’m still waiting for the day I’m looking for something & i don’t find it on that site. Deliveries come within a day or two which is so convenient.

There is a downside to this though. I find myself in the rabbit hole of the site just searching for things I don’t actually need & end up buying just because I can. It really is an addiction & I don’t know how to stop.

Are you addicted to Amazon Prime?