Mom Life

Things to say & not say to mothers

Things I’m tired of hearing since becoming a mom

– are you ready for baby number 2?

– this is what you signed up for

– I have needs also

– Breastfeeding is healthier than formula feeding

– You look tired

– she needs to learn how to sleep on her own

– you really should get her on a schedule

– When are you going back to work?

Things I would like to hear

– how can I help?

– I’ll watch the baby go take a nap

– I made dinner

– I cleaned your house

– i brought wine

– You’re doing an amazing job

– I brought you the largest coffee I could get

Any other moms hear these sayings & want to punch someone out? What are other things to say & not to say to moms?

Girl Power, Mom Life

Raising a strong willed daughter

From the moment she was born I could tell my daughter was going to be strong-willed & stubborn. She knows what she wants & isn’t afraid to let you know how she feels. She’s only 3 months old so it’s only going to get more intense as she gets older.

The feminist in me is proud that one day she’ll grow up & be a strong woman however raising a strong girl is hard.

Why can’t she be a little girl that goes with the flow & listens to her mother then when she’s older be a independent woman that does what she wants when she wants? That would be too easy for me.

Are you raising a strong-willed daughter? If so how do you deal with it?

Life as we know it

I’m sorry for the things I said when it was winter

I always hated winter. Snow & cold just don’t work for me. Plus it gets dark at 5:00 pm & that makes it even worse. Who wants it to feel like 10:00 pm at 5:00 pm? Why does it feel like every year winter gets longer? Everything about winter is miserable.

Even though I hate winter I do like seasons. After college my husband & I moved to Florida for a few years. I loved that winter didn’t exist but missed fall & spring. It felt like summer all year round & I didn’t like that either.

I just want to live in a place that has every season except winter. Is that too much to ask for?

Are you a winter person?

Life as we know it

Things I can control

Growing up my dad used to always say ”don’t sweat the small stuff, cuz its all small stuff” this was before someone wrote a book with that title.

Of course, I didn’t take that advice because I was young & thought I knew everything. i wish I did listen because I would have not wasted so much time being stressed over small things I couldn’t control.

You live & you learn & now that I’m older & a little wiser, I just focus on what I can control & it makes for a much better life. I’m way less stressed & genuinely happy.

Are you someone that stresses about things you can’t control?

Mom Life

My kid is fed & that’s all that matters

When I was pregnant I would get asked by pretty much everyone if I was going to breastfeed.

I had the mindset of I’m going to try to breastfeed but I’m not going to obsess about it. If it works for us great if not that’s fine too. I know too many moms that lost their minds she breastfeeding & i didn’t want to be that kind of person

When I had my daughter she was in the NICU for 2 days & while she was in there they bottle fed her formula to get her weight up. The nurse explained that she needed to gain a certain weight for the doctor to approve her to come home with me. I told her to do whatever she had to do to make that happen & that was feeding her formula.

The last night she was moved to my room & I tried to breastfeed her but she wasn’t having it. She already knew what it was like to get a bottle & didn’t want to have to work for her food. The hospital puts a lot of pressure on you to breastfeed that I felt guilty giving her formula.

Once we got home she was still not into the breastfeeding so we formula it was. I was formula fed, my sister was formula fed & we are both healthy human beings.

I found myself over explaining to people why I formula feed her when they asked & then I thought about it & was like ”fuck this I don’t need to explain why I do what I’m doing.”

Society puts so much pressure on women to breastfeed there are women that will lose their sanity to make breastfeeding work & that’s sad.

My baby is formula fed & she’s healthy, gaining the weight normally, she’s happy & that’s all the matters.

Do what’s best for you & your child & block out the noise. There’s no need to judge other people on the decisions they make.

Did you breastfeed or formula feed your kids?