Girl Power, Mom Life

Raising a strong willed daughter

From the moment she was born I could tell my daughter was going to be strong-willed & stubborn. She knows what she wants & isn’t afraid to let you know how she feels. She’s only 3 months old so it’s only going to get more intense as she gets older.

The feminist in me is proud that one day she’ll grow up & be a strong woman however raising a strong girl is hard.

Why can’t she be a little girl that goes with the flow & listens to her mother then when she’s older be a independent woman that does what she wants when she wants? That would be too easy for me.

Are you raising a strong-willed daughter? If so how do you deal with it?

Life as we know it

I’m sorry for the things I said when it was winter

I always hated winter. Snow & cold just don’t work for me. Plus it gets dark at 5:00 pm & that makes it even worse. Who wants it to feel like 10:00 pm at 5:00 pm? Why does it feel like every year winter gets longer? Everything about winter is miserable.

Even though I hate winter I do like seasons. After college my husband & I moved to Florida for a few years. I loved that winter didn’t exist but missed fall & spring. It felt like summer all year round & I didn’t like that either.

I just want to live in a place that has every season except winter. Is that too much to ask for?

Are you a winter person?

Life as we know it

Things I can control

Growing up my dad used to always say ”don’t sweat the small stuff, cuz its all small stuff” this was before someone wrote a book with that title.

Of course, I didn’t take that advice because I was young & thought I knew everything. i wish I did listen because I would have not wasted so much time being stressed over small things I couldn’t control.

You live & you learn & now that I’m older & a little wiser, I just focus on what I can control & it makes for a much better life. I’m way less stressed & genuinely happy.

Are you someone that stresses about things you can’t control?

Mom Life

My kid is fed & that’s all that matters

When I was pregnant I would get asked by pretty much everyone if I was going to breastfeed.

I had the mindset of I’m going to try to breastfeed but I’m not going to obsess about it. If it works for us great if not that’s fine too. I know too many moms that lost their minds she breastfeeding & i didn’t want to be that kind of person

When I had my daughter she was in the NICU for 2 days & while she was in there they bottle fed her formula to get her weight up. The nurse explained that she needed to gain a certain weight for the doctor to approve her to come home with me. I told her to do whatever she had to do to make that happen & that was feeding her formula.

The last night she was moved to my room & I tried to breastfeed her but she wasn’t having it. She already knew what it was like to get a bottle & didn’t want to have to work for her food. The hospital puts a lot of pressure on you to breastfeed that I felt guilty giving her formula.

Once we got home she was still not into the breastfeeding so we formula it was. I was formula fed, my sister was formula fed & we are both healthy human beings.

I found myself over explaining to people why I formula feed her when they asked & then I thought about it & was like ”fuck this I don’t need to explain why I do what I’m doing.”

Society puts so much pressure on women to breastfeed there are women that will lose their sanity to make breastfeeding work & that’s sad.

My baby is formula fed & she’s healthy, gaining the weight normally, she’s happy & that’s all the matters.

Do what’s best for you & your child & block out the noise. There’s no need to judge other people on the decisions they make.

Did you breastfeed or formula feed your kids?

Life as we know it

Happy Valentines Day

My husband & I have been together for a total of 11 years. We aren’t the couple that gets each other gifts for holidays as we would rather save the money & take a nice vacation or two a year.

Valentines day is just a regular day for us. Maybe we’ll go out for dinner & drinks but that’s not likely this year because we have a baby to worry about.

I would rather order in, watch Netflix, & have a glass of wine like any other night. We are like an old couple in young people’s body & I’m ok with it.

What do you do for Valentine’s day?

Life as we know it

Are you a morning person or a night owl?

When I was younger I was a night owl. Sleeping all day & staying up all night in my teens through my early 20s was what everyone I knew my age was doing.

As I got older & was forced into the real world the mornings were what I enjoyed the most. i would be most productive early morning to early afternoon.

Now that I’m in my 30s I’m more able to function from 11am-3:00 pm.

Becoming a mom has messed up my whole sleep schedule & my body doesn’t know when to be productive anymore but I’m hoping as my daughter gets older that changes.

Are you a morning or night person?